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Managing Anxiety and Depression Effectively

  • Writer: William Hoekstra, PsyD, LP DBSM
    William Hoekstra, PsyD, LP DBSM
  • Nov 17, 2025
  • 4 min read

Living with anxiety and depression can feel overwhelming at times. The good news is that there are practical ways to manage these feelings and regain control over your life. In this post, I want to share some effective coping strategies for anxiety and depression that have helped me and many others find relief and build resilience. These approaches are simple, accessible, and can be tailored to fit your unique needs.


Understanding Coping Strategies for Anxiety


When anxiety strikes, it can feel like your mind is racing and your body is on high alert. Coping strategies are tools that help calm this response and bring you back to a place of balance. They are not about avoiding anxiety but learning how to face it with confidence and calm.


Some of the most effective coping strategies include:


  • Breathing exercises: Deep, slow breaths can reduce the physical symptoms of anxiety quickly.

  • Mindfulness and meditation: These practices help you stay present and reduce worry about the future.

  • Physical activity: Exercise releases endorphins, which naturally improve mood.

  • Structured routines: Having a daily plan can provide a sense of control and predictability.

  • Social support: Talking to trusted friends or family members can ease feelings of isolation.


For example, I often use a simple breathing technique when I feel anxious: inhaling slowly for four seconds, holding for four, and exhaling for four. This helps slow the heart rate and clear our mind. You can try this anytime, anywhere.


Eye-level view of a person sitting cross-legged on a yoga mat practicing deep breathing
Practicing deep breathing to reduce anxiety

The 555 Rule for Anxiety


One technique for managing anxiety is the 555 rule. It’s an exercise designed to bring your focus back to the present moment when anxiety feels overwhelming.


Here’s how it works:


  1. Look around and name 5 things you can see. This could be a lamp, a book, a plant, a chair, or anything in your environment.

  2. Touch 5 things you can feel. For example, the texture of your clothing, the surface of your desk, or the floor beneath your feet.

  3. Listen for 5 sounds you can hear. This might be the hum of a fan, birds outside, or distant traffic.

  4. Take 5 deep breaths. Breathe in slowly and exhale fully.

  5. Say 5 positive affirmations or statements to yourself. These can be simple phrases like “I am safe,” “This will pass,” or “I am strong.”


This method helps interrupt anxious thoughts by engaging your senses and redirecting your attention. It is especially useful when anxiety hits suddenly or when we are in a stressful situation.


Building a Supportive Environment


Creating a supportive environment is crucial for managing anxiety and depression. This means surrounding yourself with people and things that promote calm and positivity.


Here are some ways to build that environment:


  • Limit exposure to negative news or social media. Constant bad news can increase anxiety.

  • Create a calming space at home. This could be a corner with soft lighting, comfortable seating, and items that bring you peace, like plants or books.

  • Reach out for professional help when needed. Therapists and counselors can provide guidance tailored to your situation.

  • Join support groups or online communities. Sharing experiences with others who understand can be very comforting.



Close-up view of a cozy corner with a soft blanket and a potted plant
Creating a calming space at home to reduce anxiety

Practical Daily Habits to Improve Mental Health


Incorporating small, consistent habits into your daily routine can have a big impact on your mental health. Here are some practical habits I recommend:


  • Set a regular sleep schedule. Sleep affects mood and anxiety levels significantly.

  • Eat balanced meals. Nutrition plays a role in brain health.

  • Limit caffeine and alcohol. Both can worsen anxiety symptoms.

  • Practice gratitude. Writing down three things you’re grateful for each day can shift your mindset.

  • Engage in hobbies or activities you enjoy. This helps distract from negative thoughts and boosts mood.


This simple routine sets a positive tone and helps us feel grounded.


When to Seek Professional Help


While self-help strategies are valuable, sometimes anxiety and depression require professional intervention. It’s important to recognize when you might need extra support.


Consider reaching out to a mental health professional if you:


  • Feel overwhelmed most days.

  • Have trouble functioning at work, school, or home.

  • Experience thoughts of self-harm or suicide.

  • Notice your symptoms worsening despite self-care efforts.


Therapists can offer evidence-based treatments like cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), medication management, or other approaches tailored to your needs. Remember, seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness.


If you’re interested in exploring therapy options, managing anxiety and depression through virtual clinics can be a convenient and effective choice.


Embracing Patience and Self-Compassion


Finally, it’s essential to be patient and kind to yourself throughout this journey. Managing anxiety and depression is not about perfection but progress. There will be good days and challenging days, and that’s okay.


Here are some reminders to keep close:


  • Healing takes time.

  • It’s okay to ask for help.

  • Small steps add up to big changes.

  • You are not alone in this.


By embracing self-compassion, you create a foundation for lasting emotional well-being. Keep trying different strategies, and celebrate your successes, no matter how small.



I hope these insights and strategies offer you some comfort and practical tools to manage anxiety and depression effectively. Remember, you have the strength to face these challenges and build a life filled with resilience and hope.

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